One Month Down!

Its been a month since I started school, and boy has it been an adjustment. We’ve learned a lot in these few weeks, and have given up on some things too. Continue reading “One Month Down!”

September Favorites

Big changes came in September and with that I found some new, and refound some old favorites.

Momma Favorites:

  1. Contigo Autoseal Coffee Mug. This Mug stays hot, or cold FOREVER! Okay about 7 hours hot and 12 hours cold and the ice doesn’t melt! I love this for school days. I actually recieved this as a gift 3 years ago and rarely used it until recently. Now its my best friend.Travel mug
  2. Amazon Fresh Coffee. Its really good, and as a former barista, I’m pretty picky. Its a great price, shows up at your door in 2 days, and the packaging is cute! What more could you ask for!Coffee
  3. Love Beauty and Planet Hair Masque. This smells divine, and my hair is so soft and silky! Hair Masque.jpg
  4. Spa Life Facials. Self care is still super important to me so while Lottie Sleep and the hubs and I catch up on the American Housewife I treat myself to a Mask. This brand is affordable, doesn’t smell super strongly, and they are great in my sensitive skin.Spa Life
  5. Milani Amore Shine Liquid Lipstick. Charming has been my go to shade all month. Its nude, but pink, subtle but shiny. I love it.Milani Lipstick

Now for Lottie theres just a few things we’ve added to our routine that we love.

  1. Seventh Generation Night Diapers. I cannot talk about these enough. I bought them on a whim and I’m in love. She is sleeping better, and has not have a diaper leak since we bought our first pack. Night diapers.jpg
  2. Evenflo Tribute Carseat. We needed 2 extra seats, one for the sitters car, and one for Nana’s car. Carseats are crazy expensive so I shopped around, did my research. Compared safety checks, size, and ease of use. This Was the seat that fit all the criteria, and weren’t the price of a small car. This seat can also keep her rear facing for a good while.Carseat.jpg
  3. Fancy Nancy. Sofia the first has ended and we are so sad, but Fancy Nancy is so cute! At first glance shes a spoiled kindergartener, but when you watch it you realize she’s a little girl who loves to be Fantastique, and loves her friends, and family too. Plus the girl has style.Fancy nancy

For the Home

Being away from home more often now I love coming home to a nice clean, cozy, good smelling home.

  1. The Hyde and Eek! decor is currently taking over my living room. The throw blanket is my new favorite couch blanket.
  2. Cascade Platinum Dish washer pods. We’re eating a lot of casseroles lately and these little pods seriously clear everything off the dish. Baked on cheese, tomato sauce, you name it!
  3. Bath and Body Works fall melt. I Love scentsy, but I also love bath and body works scents and these melt are a great price and smell divine! Sweet Cinnamon Pumpkin is my fave.melt

Simplifying Life

I’ve been reading Grace, Not Perfection by Emily Ley, for a second time since I’m in a different season of life than I was when I read it over a year ago, trying to rebalance my life with all the changes that are taking place currently. I’m trying to juggle being a wife, a mother, and a student. And let me tell you its hard. Being a SAHM is hard, being a working mom is hard, being a mom in school is hard and they’re each hard in their own way.

Emily is my kind of gal. She’s all about planning and organizing (she is the creator of the simplified planner) and she has had her own struggles with balancing work, family, being a wife, and self care.

I’m following her system for simplicity and a planned life and I must say I really like it. If you don’t have the book I suggest getting it! If you’re not into self development books but want to know her system I’ll summarize it here for you.

  1. Plan meals the week ahead: This really will change your week and make it significantly easier. You can find my meal planning strategy in an earlier post. I got my listing idea from her and its the best way to meal plan in my opinion.
  2. Tidy up for a clean slate: I really struggled with this one. I am not the housewife extraordinaire my mom is and that’s okay. I probably won’t ever be and I’ve accepted it, but I am making a point to have a clean desk, and a clean counter and empty sink every night before bed. What I’m not doing is stressing having an immaculate home when it takes time away from my family and from me studying. But a clean sink makes my morning sun smoother and a clean desk makes studying easier and I’m more likely to do so at my clean desk.
  3. Plan for the week: I’m all about the plan (my anxiety prefers a plan too). I sit at my clean desk and plan out my week. Appointments, grocery shopping days, exams, study times, everything all of it get written into my planner. Once its there its not floating around in my head stressing me out so I won’t forget it.
  4. Fill your tank: No not your gas tank but that’s a good idea. Take care of yourself. Do something you like to refill your cup for the following week. You have to take care of yourself to take care of everything else.

Workout and Meal Plan 9/10-9/16

Breakfast and Lunch we are creatures of habit, especially on my school days, but here is what we ate this week!

Meal Plan

Monday-

Tuesday-

  • Breakfast- Oatmeal
  • Lunch- Left Over Ratatouille and Steak made into a salad
  • Dinner- Turkey Meatloaf with Cauliflower Mashed Potatoes

Wednesday-

  • Breakfast- Its a school day so I get a shake and Lottie gets a fritata
  • Lunch- I packed my favorite salad (but for dressing I just mix ranch and salsa)
  • Dinner- Meatball casserole (School nights are for make a head dinners) I use turkey meatballs and no extra milk.

Thursday

Friday-

  • Breakfast- Shake
  • Lunch- Chicken from last night into a salad
  • Dinner- Pigs in a blanket (because its finger food Friday)

Saturday-

  • Breakfast- Hubby made scrambles with bacon and Sweet potatoes
  • Lunch- Tuna melts and tomato soup
  • Dinner- Chili and baked potatoes

Sunday-

  • Breakfast- Shake (I worked out of town Sunday and was in the car at breakfast)
  • Lunch- Adult Style Lunchable
  • Dinner- In N Out as I was driving home (I earned it working a 8 hour day and driving a total of 4 hours)

 

Workouts

Monday- Morning Yoga and A trip to the park

Tuesday- Morning Yoga again (Its the best way for me to workout in the morning)

Wednesday- 5 Minute Blogilates Ab workout

Thursday- 5 Minute Blogilates Butt workout

Friday- 5 Minute Arms Blogilates Workout

Saturday- Family walk and Park Play!

Sunday- Rested, but also spent the day lifting wine cases.

 

What did you guys eat this week and what were your workouts?

 

Fit Mom Tribe?

I probably won’t ever be a part of the fit mom tribe. I’m not the kind to spend hours at the gym, or wake up early to workout and cardio isn’t my thing anymore. I’m not the same person I was at 22 and don’t have the drive to be. What I do have the drive for is keeping up with my kid, living a long healthy life with her, teaching her healthy life choices, oh and not getting worn out at school holding a blow dryer to do a clients hair.

I love seeing the Fit Mom Tribe on Instagram. They look like they’re living their best life, and I’ll get inspired for a week then fall off the wagon for months. I don’t want to do that anymore. I watched my mom and aunts do that my whole life. I don’t want Lottie to see me jump on fads and do crash diets. I thankfully have never been tempted to crash diet I have done a few fad ones, whole 30 was real big when I was in college and I just remember always being hungry.

Posting this is more of an accountability thing for me. I’m not trying to say all moms need to workout because even Olympic athletes say being a mom is harder than the Olympics. What I am trying to say is, I think its easier to workout and eat well when you know someone is watching (When I was still running I would walk when there were no cars around and start to jog when I heard them approaching), So with you guys, Lottie, and my husband watching I’m making some changes. You guys are more than welcome to make these changes with me!

I’m going to post my weekly meal plan (which I promise will be affordable, and do able for the working mom and SAHM alike), along with my weekly workouts. Most of my workouts will be 30 minutes or less, sometimes longer and some days I will call a trip to the park a workout because lets be real, it is. Most of my workouts will likely be from Yoga Download, or Blogilates on YouTube.

If you want to join my little journey email me at OneMomInTheValley@Gmail.com to be added to the weekly newsletter, or come here every week to see what I’ve been doing!

Body Autonomy and Children

This is such a touchy subject and so easy to get wrong, but its important.

Body Autonomy simply put means being in control of your body, how its used, who can touch it, and what is done with it. Easy enough right? Well many people get it wrong when it comes to kids.

Most parents believe that its their child so they have ‘control’ of how their child uses their body, and that in a sense is true. You buy your kid clothes to put on their body and food to put in it. You pick their sports when they’re young, and as they age you allow them to choose their clothes, have a better say in what they eat, and they begin to choose the activities they participate in.

You’re doing a lot of things right. You give them baths when they need it not necessarily when they want it and you change their diapers as needed no matter how much they fight because you’re a good parent who cares about their well being. You don’t let them run around naked, and you don’t allow your 14 year old to get that super cool butterfly tattoo (Do teens even want butterfly tattoos anymore? Am I getting old?). You have your kids wear protective pads when on their bike and skateboards. You’re their parent and in charge of protecting them and their bodies.

One thing many parents get wrong unfortunately is the forcing a child to give affection, when a child clearly doesn’t want to. I don’t mean to strangers, I mean to family members. When your toddler is being a toddler and refuses to give grandma a hug and a kiss on Christmas morning and you tell him “Oh just love your grandma”. When a kid on the play ground tries to hug your preschooler, and she tries to run away and you tell them “Oh you’ll be fine”, you’re telling them that they can’t make the choice of when and who they allow to touch them, and give affection to, and get affection from.

I know it doesn’t seem like that big of a deal but essentially you are telling them that their ‘No’ doesn’t mean ‘No’ and in a world of Harvey Weinstein’s and Brock Turners we can’t keep telling kids this.

When a little girl is pushed on the playground and she gets angry and tells a teacher, who dismisses it with a “That just means he likes you” that teacher told that little girl “he can touch you and hurt you and its okay because he likes you”. That’s not okay.

When your little boy has beautiful curls, and so many people just want to run their fingers through them, and you say “oh sure, aren’t they adorable” without asking him you are letting him know that a stranger can touch you if they’re nice and compliment you.

It’s difficult to draw the line between parents choice, and child’s choice. I always think of myself in the situation or similar situation (since kids don’t push me on the playground anymore). “Would I want to be forced to (insert body choice here)?” Do I want to be forced to hug people? No I don’t want to be forced, and I don’t want someone forced to hug me. I don’t want to kiss people I don’t want to kiss and I sure as hell don’t want a stranger touching me no matter how much they compliment me. Yeah I know my hair is super thick I brush it everyday, no you cant feel how thick it is. Yes I know my pregnant belly is round, keep your damn hands off of it.

It really is simple. A child, is a human being who deserves to have control over their body and who is allowed to touch it. Again within reason they still need a bath and their diaper changed. Teach them they can say no, and that their body is theirs.

Please Is Not A Magic Word

I accidentally turned please into a magic word. A word that gets you your way whenever you use it. This is starting to backfire. I heard it as a kid. “Just because you said please doesn’t mean you get what you want” I can hear my mom telling me this as we walk down the Barbie aisle at Walmart.

When Lottie first started talking and signing, we stressed using the word please. “Say please” or “Please, first” or “you can have it if you say please” have fallen out of my mouth more times than I can count. Now I have a toddler who thinks that please is magic. That’s how you teach them to speak, you prompt them. You guide and script them.

I’ve created a polite monster. She wakes me up handing me Gold Fish Crackers saying “please” and when I say no we have a melt down, until she has a real breakfast. She says please and hands me the T.V. remote requesting she get to watch what she wants when I’m trying to get her to color, again a meltdown when I say “not right now”. She asks her Nana, my mother in law for cookies and says “please” I quickly yell “No! She’s already had sweets,” and I hear “But she said please” and instantly I feel like I’m a bad mom, because “She said please”.

Please is going to be the death of me. Please is Polite, but please is not a magic word. I should have known better. There is such a fine line between being a good and loving parent, and spoiling a child and I’m so close to the line when I look down I can’t see it.

Toddler Eats

When people ask what Lottie eats I always reply food…? Because that’s what she eats, she eats adult food. By that I mean she eats what I eat. I don’t typically cook her a separate meal, unless I know she doesn’t like something I’m cooking, or its spicy.

I keep her plates simple in look but full of flavor. Just because she’s a toddler doesn’t mean she can’t eat good food.

Dinners she always has what we are having (again unless its spicy or she has let us know she does not like it) with a side of yogurt so she has the calcium to help her sleep.

Lunch is a little different. She naps during the typical lunch hour so I eat while she’s asleep, so she doesn’t eat what I’m eating. I keep her plates pretty balanced, and follow a “main” plus two sides plan.

Her typical Mains are:

  • Macaroni and Cheese (Annie’s is what I usually buy)
  • Grilled Ham/Turkey and Cheese
  • Peanut Butter and Jelly
  • Turkey/Ham roll ups with spinach
  • Lunch Meat Cracker and Cheese “lunchable” style
  • Chicken Nuggets (I like the ones with veggies in the breading)
  • Veggies Nuggets
  • Meatballs
  • Ravioli’s
  • Noodles Soup
  • Leftovers
  • Bean and Cheese burritos
  • Quesadillas

Lunch 2

I also Choose 2 of the Following

  • Peas
  • Strawberries
  • Blueberries
  • Carrot sticks
  • Celery
  • Applesauce
  • Grapes
  • Animal crackers
  • Sweet Potato Chips
  • Cuties

Lunch 1

Breakfast is simple since I’m not a morning person, she has one of my Make Ahead Breakfasts, Fruit, Cinnamon Raisin Toast, oatmeal, or just a scrambled egg.

I don’t let her be picky. Its not really an option, she is allowed not to like things that’s perfectly okay but I will always have her try things and always try to feed her what I’m cooking before I make her something else.

What do your kids eat?